Why Young Nigerian Girls Marry Older Men

The idea of a younger woman marrying a much older man and vice versa is nothing new.

In fact, the society we live in makes it very easy for older men to have very young brides, though the concept of older women getting young husbands is not very common.

It is often easier for an older man married to a young to be accepted than for a mature woman with younger male partner.

Discussing with some of our readers, majority said it was okay for an older man to marry a young wife but not okay for an older woman to take up a young husband.

Most of the ladies said they can marry someone over 10-years older. Some said they were already married to men much older than they are and they are enjoying their marriage.

The men however had a different view, saying they can’t marry an older woman because she might have hit menopause and won’ be able to give bear children.

But why do younger people go for the older people. This question is one that has been pondered by many.

Below are some of the reasons young women marry older men.

1. For love: For some women, age is no barrier in marriage. They marry for love. Some women are attracted to older men and don’t mind being their wives. Just like they say, love is blind.

2. For Money: This is like the top on the list. Most women love the good things of life so they would not mind pitching their tent with a man older than their father. The material success that you can partake of as his wife is what draws most young ladies to these older men. An older man is far more likely to be established and successful in his career than a younger guy. This gives you the assurance that you can live the good life and afford luxuries.

3. Emotional maturity: The more experiences a person has, the more likely he is to be emotionally mature. According to some women, older men don’t get jealous unnecessarily like younger men. They don’t expect their fragile egos to be massaged every now and then.

4. He has more experience about life: Sometimes, older is better. With age comes experience, which is why many younger women will always want to date older men. A man with longer and wider experiences may make your life much more interesting than it would have been with a younger guy. Not only will he advise you on practical issues and financial matters, he will also open your eyes to the variety of things the world has to offer.

5. He is sexually experienced as well: Older with their long years in relationships could be more sexually knowledgeable than younger guys and more importantly, eager to please their wives unlike the young fellas who are too interested in their own satisfaction to notice what their partners are feeling.

6. He is more understanding and caring.

7. He is more responsible and know how to handle any situation.

8: Comfort: Older men are not as demanding as the younger ones. You’d be more comfortable with them not stressing about irrelevant things. The older men would not demand for sex on a regular basis like the younger guys.

9. The need for a father figure: Most young ladies are looking for the love of a father. It’s either their fathers are dead or the father didn’t show them love and now they are looking for someone to fill that space.

10. Less in-law drama: In Nigerian society, some in-laws can be real pains. Some women even go as far as wishing their mother-in-laws dead because of the hostility exhibited by some of them. With an older men, there would be less drama from in-laws.