The Best Way To Approach And Pick Up A Woman At The Bar

In theory, the bar is a fertile ground to find babes. On any given Friday night, you’ll spot a beautiful woman blowing off steam after a tough work week, or catching up with friends over a couple of strong cocktails. In practice, however, picking up women at pubs and clubs is a far trickier feat. She’s there to relax and let loose—not listen to some guy try to sound suave while fumbling with his pint glass.

But it all starts with your approach.

#10. Do Relax. Stop worrying about what I might think of you. I’ll probably like you a lot better and give you more time if you come over and talk to me naturally rather than using a line or nervously talking crap. Women can tell if a guy is confident or sh*tting his pants. Try thinking of something funny as you walk over so it isn’t some creepy “I’m confident” smile.

#9. Do Focus On The Group. Talk to my friends, even if I’m out with some guys. Sure, you’ve seen me, but you should make me work for it a little. Girls like a chase too, and seeing someone make our friends laugh, or having a good time with them, is intriguing.

#8. Do Buy A Round Of Shots. It makes you seem fun, plus it’s a quick drink, meaning no long conversations necessary.

#7. Don’t Try And Buy Me. So you got some shots. Great. But further flashing of the cash is not required on a first encounter. If you’re well-dressed, are good for a laugh and can order drinks well, then we’ll get the picture. You don’t need to paint it out for us. And if you do, you’ll be in danger of attracting the wrong type of woman.

#6. Don’t Chat Me Up While Eyeing The Waitress. Yes, I can see what you’re doing… And my butt is better than hers.

#5. Don’t Order Our Drinks For Us.

We know our drinks and we know what we like — and it isn’t that blue frilly sweet one that comes with a pineapple wedge. If you insist on choosing them, then please refrain from drinks with names like Sex on the Beach and Slippery Nipple. It’s not clever.

#4. Don’t Call Me Nicknames. You may think calling me “baby” is sexy, and you’d be wrong. It isn’t cute, and it shows us you probably call every girl you meet in every bar just that. Nothing wrong with “excuse me.”

#3. My Eyes Are Up Here, For The Millionth Time. My eyes are on my face, and that’s all that needs to be said. If you can’t resist, then at least pay them a compliment. If you can do it in an un-creepy way, and with some humor, we’ll probably love it. Who doesn’t love being told they’ve got a perfect rack?

#2. Don’t Creep Up And Dance Behind Me. The music is quiet and I’m not on the dance floor — and even if I am, it isn’t an excuse to lurk up and push your junk on me. Introduce yourself to me first, and I might let you grab me in time… after a drink.

#1. Don’t Drink Too Much: Liquid courage is one thing, but drunk boys and interested girls don’t go famously well together, trust us. Slurring your words and spilling your pint on me isn’t going to make me take my clothes off — apart from to change into clean ones, in the privacy of my apartment, alone.

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