Must Read - Give Him the Best Sex of His Life

"I was cruising around with my girlfriend, Sidney, in my topless Jeep one sunny day when she put her feet on the dashboard so that her skirt flipped up, barely revealing her sexy black, lace G-string panties," says Dan Bides, a 27-year-old pharmacist in New York City. "I drove right off the road and we started making out. She was better than a fantasy."

Why the boy ploy? "I was so attracted to him, I wanted him to really want me," says Sidney, a 26-year-old office manager. She chose the best way to seduce: eye-popping foreplay. "Men are far more visual than women. Sexy teasing works wonders on them," advises Susan Crain Bakos, author of Sexational Secrets (Saint Martin's, 1996). If you're writing with a pen, for instance, stop to suggestively put it in your mouth every so often. Or when you're eating spaghetti, roll a short strand into your mouth with your tongue. "Draw out your actions to build anticipation," she adds.

"For example, when she comes home from work, her blouse will be unbuttoned so it's easy for me to peek down her shirt and notice she isn't wearing a bra," he says. "It took me awhile to realize that she didn't go to work like that. She's just teasing me. And it works — we have incredibly hot sex."

The best sex of Jamie Heartmore's life was with a no-holds-barred bed devil he had just met. "We were lifeguards and shared a two-person bench. After talking about sex for two hours, we were both worked up," says the 30-year-old architect from Seattle. "Suddenly, she sat on my lap, slipped the crotch of her bathing suit to one side, and did me right there. I've never been so excited." Their post-beach adventures were just as off-the-wall, er, chair. She tied him up, subjected him to mild S&M maneuvers, and encouraged him to share his fantasies. "She embodied raw lust — she went for exactly what she wanted," he says. "I haven't been with a woman like her since — and believe me, I've looked."

And it's no wonder he's on the search: For guys, finding a try-anything woman is like winning the wonder-lover lottery. When you aren't bound by taboos, he starts to believe that anything can happen, which is a huge aphrodisiac. The best way to bust your taboos: Fake that you don't have them. "Pretend you're the sex goddess you want to be," says Jaid Barrymore, author of
Secrets of World Class Lovers (General Publishing Group, 1995). "Walk around in front of him naked, even if you feel uncomfortable about it. Eventually, you'll feel that sexual self-confidence for real."

"My girlfriend is sweet and nice outside the bedroom. But during sex, she turns into a bad girl, describing her every feeling in four-letter-word detail," says John Hill, a pro golfer in Sarasota, Fl. "It surprises me every time we have sex — and I can't get enough of it!" From do-me dirty talk to sensual mmm-mmm-good murmurs, men are totally into your body's pleasure ballad. Why does he love it loud? Your aural applause immediately tells him he's incredible in bed. "When you make major noise, he knows he's doing you right," says Bonnie Gabriel, author of The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice, Excite, and Enchant Your Lover with Words (Bantam, 1996).

Sometimes all it takes is oohs and aahs to etch yourself into his memory forever. Maggie Gallagher, a 26-year-old writer from Hoboken, N.J., says, "My husband had never been with anyone as noisy as me before, and now, he can't imagine having sex with someone who'd just lie there in complete silence," she says.

Too shy to be an untamed tongue temptress? Play a game Gabriel calls the Dirty Talk Olympics. "Pretend you and he are two world-class finalists and do a spoof of all the raunchy sex talk you've ever heard," says Gabriel. "Exaggerate to make the 'dirty' words a little less overwhelming." If you're looking for specific things to say, start out with easy moans and groans and work your way up to more pornlike monologue. Don't think too hard — just express your pleasure. "Simple things like, "Touch me right here" or "That feels so good" are sexy and effective," Gabriel says. Next thing you know, you'll be whispering away like a phone-sex pro.

Michael Oliver, 29, a newspaper reporter in Atlanta, will never forget his college girlfriend's signature fellatio feat. "She didn't just give me
oral sex , she gave me oral genius," he raves. She'd put her thumb and index finger together to form a ring. Then she'd put the circle up to her mouth and form a tube with the rest of her hand. We called it the Seduction Suction." The maneuver was so memorable that Oliver always asks women to do it for him now.

How to divine your own sexual sign? Pay attention to a male erogenous zone you're drawn to. That's what works for Liza Lidia, 26, a personal assistant in New York City. "Guys think they've gone to heaven when I do my special oral-sex move," she says. "I tickle the testicles with my tongue, then gently place his twins in my mouth. My lovers are so happy, they'll do anything for me."
Or look in the mirror and focus on your best features, recommends Bakos. If you have great breasts, use them to your advantage by running your nipples up and down his body. If you have lusty legs, wear thigh-high stockings that you slowly unroll, or use your thighs to envelope him as he thrusts. You want to find a one-of-a-kind maneuver that he'll associate with you for all his deed-doing days. "But since your new man may not like what your ex was into, be sure to keep experimenting," says Bakos.
"I was with a Brazilian woman who could flex her sex muscles whenever she wanted to," says Ty Jerimo, 26, a TV reporter in Phoenix. "I could feel her wrapped around every inch of my penis and I had the most mind-blowing orgasm. What I wouldn't do to be with her again!"

Don't pack your bags — you don't have to head to South America to learn how to do tricks with your PC (pubococcygeal) muscles. Just stay put and with a little practice, they can be the portal to Pleasure Central. Elizabeth Khalil, a 23-year-old graduate student in Boston, says neither she nor her boyfriend can live without her PC performance. "I usually squeeze him when I know he's about to come, which prolongs his orgasm — and my pleasure," she says. "Or sometimes, when he's thrusting in and out of me, I squeeze really tight each time before he re-enters. It feels good for me too, and it's such an easy trick!"

That's right, this isn't a completely selfless sexual act. The stronger your PC muscles, the greater control you have over your own orgasms too. "Once a woman develops her PC muscles, she can't believe how much more powerful her climax becomes," says Bakos. Find out for yourself. You can get killer love muscles like Khalil's by doing your sexercises. First, find your PCs by stopping your urine midflow. Then (when you're off the bowl) try squeezing the muscles for one second, and release. Do 20 repetitions two times a day. Once you've got that move, uh, under your belt, try squeezing and holding for up to 10 seconds for 20 reps two times a day. In two weeks, you'll be in excellent sex shape.
Sexual sparks had been flying all day, and Paul Andrews could hardly wait to get to his date's apartment. When he did, his A-list lover sexed him fast. But this was to be no lone quickie: Afterward, she pinned him on the kitchen tablecloth. "For five hours, we christened every room in her apartment," he says. "I was in heaven!"
Few things blow men's minds more than coming again...and again. "Repeat performances are like hitting the sexual jackpot," explains author Barrymore. "The sexual 'elite' can't live without them!"

The secret to creating this sexual heaven for your man involves maximizing the silver lining in three clouds. First, you need to keep below-the-belt chafing at bay by staying slippery. "Make sure you have a bottle of lube — like Eros or AstroGlide — so you can keep things slick and stimulating," recommends Barrymore. Second, you have to ward off clitoral sensory overload — too much action can capsize your little "man in the canoe," leaving things irritated. "Use a position, like doggie style, in which your happy button doesn't get stimulated for a few minutes," she adds.

Finally, you have to cope with his intermittently tired tool. Wait from 10 minutes to an hour (younger guys usually need less time) between rounds. During downtime, guide his hands to your body and let him know you want to play "sans penis" (which will be somewhat irritated and tender right after each act). When you sense he's ready for round two (or three or four), lick your lips. "Oral sex is a surefire way to spark another stiffy," says Bakos. "The hot, warm feeling of a woman's mouth is very difficult for a man to resist."